The reason for negativity in your life
Are you feeling unwell, burdened by negative experiences or do you have the impression that you are not coping with the demands of daily tasks, or struggling to achieve your objectives?
Maybe you have gone through a difficult time that has deteriorated your mood, or maybe you just feel like this without any clear reason. It might have become a habit, making it difficult to overcome with just the power of your own will.
Our mind is extremely sophisticated and the part of it that regulates our body functions also records all of our experiences, like a giant recorder that is on 24/7 from the day we are born. It’s constantly filtering the information that comes to our brain from outside and only reads what is relevant to us in each moment. How does it choose to make us aware of one thing over another? To make us notice the rain or the rainbow? All our perceptions are ruled by the database of previous experiences and our mind makes us aware of what matches those records. So what your own mind lets you be aware today depends on yesterday’s experiences.
So when you have been feeling down, chances are your own mind is using this information as a reference to screen out any new experience that is not of the same “vibration”. This results in changing your negative mood from a simple feeling into a habit.
So if your mind only allows you to see the negativity, how can you possibly change it?
Nowadays there are techniques designed to access the mind’s database of experiences, delete some information within it, and add new information. New references in the database mean that new experiences will be allowed to reach your awareness.
3 ways to reduce negativity in your life
1. Practice coherence
Coherence is a state of harmony between the heart and the brain, when positive heartfelt emotions induce the heart rhythm to slow down and regulate. This influences the nervous system to relax, creating the right environment for the mind to work at its full potential. You do not need to wait for good news in your life to experience positive emotions. You can induce it yourself. Here is how you can practice it: make yourself comfortable, place your hand on your chest over your heart and connect with your heart. Be conscious of your heart beating in your chest. Take deep breath “through your heart” as if your heart had a nose and a mouth, visualizing the air going in and out through your chest. Then think of some positive memory, a person or a place while keeping up the breathing and indulge in the calm feeling it restores in your body and mind. Practice this exercise daily, use it before starting a challenging task so it will help you to clear your mind and focus your attention, and most of all use it any time you are feeling overwhelmed with stress or negativity.
2. Practice positive
You can start reprogramming your own mind’s database by using positive affirmations. To be efficient, the affirmations have to sink into the subconscious mind. That is why you should repeat them while being in a relaxed meditative state, because the mind is then in a heightened suggestible state. Hence, I recommend you to repeat your affirmations after meditating, after your coherence practice session, or in bed when you are just about to fall asleep or upon waking up.
Create your own affirmations, in a positive manner and in a way that is also believable to your conscious mind so it wouldn’t resist the suggestion. For instance, rather than saying “I am always happy and cheerful” - which you might resist because it’s not necessarily true, change it to make it something believable. Let’s say you reaffirm yourself that “every day I am getting happier and healthier”. This minimises any resistance from your conscious mind as the goal could appear unrealistic for you in this moment in time.
3. Develop your “positive radar”
Start to be attentive to the positive things that happen in your life, small or big, whether it’s the smile of a passer-by on the street, big thing such as signification promotion at work. Acknowledge the moments of positivity in your life you so you can train your mind to seek for it more. The more you see them the more there will be to see! Make an effort to identify more of the positive and less of the negative aspects of anything. There’s always something we can appreciate: it could simply be the breakfast you had in the morning, or even something as taken for granted as the air you breathe. Acknowledge these things and be grateful for them, since as they say, the more grateful you are, the more there’s to be grateful for!
If you are making it your business to feel good on purpose, positive thinking will soon become a habit rather than an effort!
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