Deep Reflections of a Daughter on Mother's Day

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My Reflections

Another 'Mother's Day' is around the corner and I find myself in deep reflection pondering about being a mother and its ultimate meaning. I am a mature woman who is a Feminine Cycle Consultant and a Women's Coach, therefore the subject of motherhood is dear to my heart. I am not a mother myself, only an auntie for the time being, so mainly my reflections are about how I appreciated my mother in my younger years and what I can do to be a good 'mother' to myself.

As a Young Girl

When I think on how I behaved when I was a young girl and then a young woman, I shrink a bit inside, as I remember very well how strongly I was clashing against my mum and was trying my best to get my opinion heard and validated by her. Back then I thought that mainly the generation gap was the culprit of our misunderstandings, but now I see it differently.

For sure the generation gap can cause problems in communication within the family and therefore a whole array of issues can come out of it, but mainly we don't understand how difficult the role of a mother is until we are older and possibly we are ourselves in the same position to fully appreciate what our mother did for us. I heard it being said by my mother many times when I was younger and felt strongly about my ideas and way of doing things, etc. but I only appreciated its meaning after I hit my 40's.

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My Role as a Daughter

It's as if Nature makes us short-sighted to be able to fully embody our role of daughters which is a sacred role in itself too: if we are not completely daughters in the total sense of the word when we are young, we certainly cannot be it when we are grown up, therefore I don't feel guilty any more about how single minded I was back then.

It is fundamental to develop oneself emotionally and psychologically and to become a grown up woman, to learn to affirm one's will during the teenage years, but maybe I underestimated the responsibility of being a mother and the utter deed of love which is being a mother!

If I could use my wisdom of maturity and could go back in time and have an adult conversation with my mother, the first thing I would say to her would be: “Sorry, mum, for being abrupt and not taking into consideration your love towards me! Thank you for all your concern and dedication to bring me up in the best way you could!”

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Am I a Good Mother?

Now in my 40's I wonder how good a mother I am towards myself on a daily basis …

  • To be able to be good to others, we need to learn to be good to ourselves first and really understand the meaning of deep care and love.
  • Am I taking care of all my needs as a good mother would do for her child?
  • Am I taking time out to appreciate my company and value my person?
  • Do I feed myself properly as a grown up, or I still use food to compensate for the things missing in my life?
  • Do I put myself to bed as a caring mother would do with her child late at night? Or do I just keep going ignoring the time, because I think that I am old enough to dismiss my body's needs like a good night's sleep?
  • Do I see people that feed me on different levels, rather than meeting anybody just to avoid feeling alone?
  • Do I take care of my learning, even if I have finished schooling, as a mother does for her child in choosing the best education possible?
  • Do I watch my finances so that I can take care of myself in the future?

The questions that come to mind go on and on and I realise more and more what being a mother means and how much my mother could still teach me, even if I used to find so many faults in her. In fact to be a good mother to oneself is possibly the most difficult role to fulfill and it is so easy to criticize others without realizing our own faults!

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My Awareness as an Adult Woman

Even if we are so different in character and have such different values, only now I realize how much my mother loved me and how much I still have to learn to love myself as much and as unconditionally as my mum did. Maybe my mother couldn't teach self-love to me as she didn't know it herself that much, but she definitely taught me how important it is the selfless love of a mother which is a priceless and universal commodity we never appreciate enough!

Are You a Good Mother to Yourself?  With deep love and respect to all the mothers in the world, remember that your role is of the most importance, always! 

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