Worldwide there are many 'naysayers' - people with a negative perspective on life. Often, they feel whenever someone is rising above the level that they are currently operating at (or that their inner circle is used to), they should be swiftly cut down to size. They will not stand taller than all the rest.
Naysayers arise when you’re about to do something new or change. Naysayers are those who think they have good advice for you but their views, well intended or not, leave you feeling deflated and defeated. Naysayers are the ones who tell you, “You should do this instead…” or, “What are you doing that for?” or my favourite, “Are you sure about this?”
For all their seeming confidence, these negative people are usually those who don’t like change or they find fault in you when, deep down, they recognise fault within themselves. Naysayers are comfortable with the person that you are – just not the person that you are becoming or wish to become. Often they possess a deep-seated fear that you will succeed and that with your newfound success you will inadvertently leave them behind.
My Story – How I Have Dealt With Naysayers
I encountered plenty of Naysayers when starting my business. So I followed my 6 key tips to deal with them and embrace them in my world.
In my life they’re still there. Sometimes I embrace them. Sometimes I smile and wave. Oftentimes I poke my tongue out and have a bit of fun with them. But mostly, I just keep going; this is the most important element.
6 Useful Tips to Deal With the Negative Influences in Your World
See beneath the lines of what they’re trying to tell you. Perhaps there’s a little piece of gold within their advice that you could possibly take on board?
2. Be grateful
Have gratitude. If there’s no gold, be grateful that this person is taking enough interest in what you’re doing.
3. Stop listening
4. Forge ahead
Full steam! Keep going and if you fall, get back up.
5. Have courage
Surround yourself with people who are where you want to be. Lose the rest.
6. Have faith
Most importantly, believe in yourself.
The important thing to remember with naysayers is: be compassionate. When someone discourages you or doubts your ability, rather than getting defensive, thank them for offering their advice. Have the strength to recognise whether their advice is valuable and be confident in your decisions, knowing they are being made with the right amount of security and risk. While sometimes inhibiting, the naysayer’s role is pivotal in teaching us some valuable lessons, whether we like it or not. They are there to make us question ourselves and force us to respond to our own insecurities.
What do you do to combat the negative people of your world? Let us know in the comments below!