How to Find and Follow Your Life Path

Follow Your Life Path – What Does it Mean?

Is a life path like cutting a swath through a hot dangerous jungle with a machete or is it a civilized stroll along some scenic route that is pleasant, easy and fun?

Perhaps, a life path is something only spiritual people talk about. Or maybe what we do for a living is our path? Does it feel like it’s not very realistic to follow our life's path, or that only rich people or creative geniuses follow their own path? And don’t forget about all the good opinions of others who may think we’re being unrealistic or selfish if we follow our paths.

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Fearful people love to tell us that following our path may cause us to go broke or crazy. Maybe following our path is just too difficult and is only for brave people or fools.

So if following a path, a fantasy or something that may bring discomfort or challenges, no wonder so many people say, “No Way!” But I would suggest that it will come up for us at some point in our life, and for most of us, that time will be the moment is when we are dying or sick and running out of time.

In spite of all the living we do, much of it is on auto pilot, and a common response for people who are running out of time is to say, “Did I really live or was I too busy worrying about little things that don’t mean anything now.” They often get a glimpse of the path they wanted to follow, but didn’t. As the body crumbles, the soul awakens.

This is why dying people always tell the living to “follow your dreams.” Don’t wait for sickness or death. Do it while there is still time.

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Two Types of Path

But now, here is the mystery. There is no Path because everything is the Path; and, inside of that “everything” there are two important distinctions: our Master Path and our Secondary Path.

The Master Path is our inner path—-our path of meaning. And, our Secondary Path is our outer path, where we put that meaning into action out in the world. The Master Path is about “being” and the Secondary Path is about “doing.” So where are we on our Master Path? Standing still? Walking backwards? Eyes opened or closed? Sprinting forward?

Once we have honestly assessed where we think we are I’d like to discuss a word that I think is the key to traveling our life journey: congruent. 

Congruent means in agreement or harmony. One of the questions asked over and over again is about a person's purpose in life and how people can figure out "what they came here to do."


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Everybody is convinced they inhabited a human body because there is one thing The Universe wants me to do; and, I have to find that out. That’s my life path to find out this big mystery; until then, I’m waiting to live my life. God doesn’t care what we do. We didn’t come down here to do anything specific at all. We came down here to express our divinity in a body, so that divinity could experience itself through us. And that is our master path.

Our Master Path has nothing to do with anything external because every step is really an internal journey. It is not about time; it is about presence. It is about trust; it is your internal spiritual journey. The challenge facing each of us is to become congruent: to accomplish becoming in harmony with our soul, our true nature.

What about our Secondary Path?

But wait a second, we live in a world of externals, where we are bombarded every day with messages that try to make us believe everything we are seeking is outside of us. If we can just find that magic bullet, then we’ll be happy. So we make our Secondary Path what we think our life is about—the path of doing.

It’s a question of getting the order mixed up. Imagine we have one foot in a boat going east, and one foot in a boat going west. As they slowly drift away, we start to have to stretch wider and wider, until finally we have to choose one: the other boat or end up in the water.

A lot of people live their lives like this, when really we need to get our Master Path and our Secondary Path floating in the same direction. As simple as that goal is to articulate, it is not always so easy to do this out in the “real world.”

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The Immense Importance of Inner Congruence

Yet accomplishing inner congruence is the diamond around which floats all the other goals we associate with happiness.

We cannot be truly healthy if we are out of alignment. We cannot be happy if our mind and heart are at war with each other. We cannot know what a happy fulfilled life is about if our fear of the consequences outweighs our desire to live life on our terms. We can’t love ourselves if we can’t trust ourselves.

What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments!

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