When facing transitions in life we need to take 4 steps to deal with every phase of a major life change:
Understand our situation
Accept our situation
Determine what we would like to be different
Decide what actions should be taken to get through the major life change
Working with a Life Coach can help you to recognize that it is your intentions and expectations that will take you safely from one side of the bridge to the other – this is a process we call “transition”.
When your reaction to transition is one of weakness and desperation, transition phases can be drawn out for longer than necessary or attract new challenges to compound the situation. Many people associate the ability to tackle life changing decisions or challenges with intelligence. Within the last two decades, the abstract idea of “intelligence” has been accorded to different labels in an attempt to clarify this mystifying human trait. As brilliantly as the researchers and proponents of these issues have portrayed all the aspects of intelligence, we still have far to go in deciphering one of the most exciting parts of our natural human greatness – creativity.
How do you identify, assess or activate creativity? There is hardly any scientific answer, except what we can observe, listen to, touch or otherwise, as a product of someone’s creativity. However, we can come up with a reasonable definition: creativity is the ability to see beyond the obvious, adjusting and associating disparate elements mentally and physically to reproduce new and original items, which either solve a problem or create new levels of understanding.
If you approach all your obstacles, challenges, life changing decisions and life changes with the mind-set that there is always a solution, and not just knowing that there is a solution, but knowing that you have that solution available to you, then you are actively practicing what is referred to as “the distinctive model”.
When you start off imagining that what is does not have to be or can be better, you are already allowing your mind to be creative. It took me a long time to accept geometry as a valid field of mathematics, because I thought “Why on earth should we start off with a ‘hypothesis’ and then base all our figuring on that? I could come up with my own hypothesis.” That was more than four decades ago!
Creativity works around your own private hypotheses which you come up with, and since ‘transition’ in essence amounts to dealing with the ‘unknown’, the unknown you never saw coming and the future that you are never quite sure of, creativity is essential to bypass upcoming challenges and states of mind.
With the mind-set that you have the wisdom, fortitude and arsenal of choices on which to draw, there is no end to the variety and magnitude of the solutions you can arrive at to help you to work through all of your life changes and challenges.
Before facing any new threatening situation, such as that of losing your job too soon, practice with less disastrous tests in your life. With this creative mind-set rehearsed you will surely become a master over time, since all of modern life is made up of inevitable changes and their related transitions.
If you are facing a major life change currently or are about to face an upcoming transition, remember this: ‘When the going gets tough, the tough get creative” - Thomas Edison
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