The Secret to Overcoming Self-Limitation

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A recent episode of illness stopped me dead in my tracks and brought me directly into a period of contemplation. There was a personal lesson involved here, practicing what I preach to my clients about energy conservation and knowledge regarding creativity and being less busy, which ultimately results in being more productive and involves taking time to be just me.

Our time is so precious, whatever we choose and whatever way we spend it is usually a personal choice we make. Yes, there are without doubt pressures of responsibility, commitments and feelings of obligation. Sometimes there’s even guilt that pressures us to do more or to fill the gap that we are often being gracefully given to enable us to adjust our thinking or to just be ourselves. Gaps are there to engage us, to enable us to hear what we need to hear, when we need to hear it, to allow us to move forward in strength and confidence, in the smartest most personally profitable way.

Our bodies and our minds are intrinsically connected to the overall wellbeing of our life and how we conduct our life is a living example of nurture or neglect to a greater or lesser degree, usually in one or more areas of our lives.  The work of Louise L. Hay focuses on the psychosomatic nature of our illness.

Illness however mild or severe is an indicator of your emotional state, caused by your thoughts and focus.” Louise L. Hay.

One of the most resounding reflections on society and the way that we live our lives is the increase in heart-related disease. Louise defines her diagnosis of heart-related illness, as being:

  1. Heart: Represents the center of love and security.
  2. Heart Attack: Squeezing all the joy out of the heart in favor of money or position. Feeling alone and scared. “I’m not good enough. I don’t do enough. I’ll never make it.”
  3. Heart Problems: Longstanding emotional problems.  Lack of joy. Hardening of the heart.  Belief in strain and stress.

Whatever our belief, there is often a grain of truth in psychosomatic examples to a lesser or greater degree.  The external daily demands that encourage us to be all things to all people, inevitably create mild symptoms, or raging havoc in our body and deters our best-ever self from being realised.

Why do we hold back?

A sense of fear and phobias are often passed onto children from parents, either consciously or unconsciously. Alternatively, we associate a fear by the way we perceive and receive information from others and from the environmental information around us and our own individual experiences. We certainly were not intended to be created with fear.

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Freedom from self-limitation

Where does our basis for our sense of freedom from self-limiting, thoughts, beliefs and values lay?  The aforementioned, are unstable, they are variables that can be modified from individual to individual experience, by biology, parenting, education and experiential assimilation. There are children and adults who are diagnosed with having certain learning differences, classified as being learning disabilities. Very often, those children and adults can present as being fearless when it comes to challenges of heights, sky diving, jumps or other extreme activities. As we move into adulthood and our learning experience consolidates we can sometimes feel the risks are greater, that we have more to lose.

Where then does our stability lie?

The kind of stability that allows us to feel our fears and do it anyway, the kind of belief and value system that says, yes, I was disappointed when that experience did not turn out exactly as I had planned, however if it had not been for that experience I would not be in this position today, knowing what I know now, or would I have gained the faith in the knowledge that there is a better outcome on its way.

Finding this place of inner confidence is a life lesson and a journey that can carry us through the most challenging of personal situations, situations that are often a call for us to change.

Living a self-limitless life is to embrace life in its totality for everyone the experience and the journey is different. When we can trust that the valleys and the summits of life are our blessings of learning on the way to revealing new experiences that are about our journey to self-fulfilment, we are on our way.

Finding our true place and passion is so very much a comforting, empowering experience that takes us to the best that we can be. Often our start on this journey is prompted by a physical change or personal realisation, sometimes an illness that stops us in our tracks, to redirect us, or a call for us to change. Our challenges, learning and passions are about finding out what they are, and moving the obstacles that perceived or otherwise could limit us.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments!

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